tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366621735995057721.post3014519512972209870..comments2024-03-17T09:17:01.454+00:00Comments on Vic the Vicar!: Clergy - Having favouritesVic Van Den Berghhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09581156515370131898noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366621735995057721.post-72664288480329111352013-06-14T05:39:30.252+01:002013-06-14T05:39:30.252+01:00Thanks,
VThanks,<br /><br />VVic Van Den Berghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581156515370131898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366621735995057721.post-36900891009228953212013-06-13T22:12:26.499+01:002013-06-13T22:12:26.499+01:00Oh, and this might help with your evaluations:
ht...Oh, and this might help with your evaluations:<br /><br />http://img2.etsystatic.com/014/0/7361518/il_570xN.413621594_lpmk.jpgDrJnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366621735995057721.post-89318348285303498962013-06-13T22:04:24.682+01:002013-06-13T22:04:24.682+01:00Us medics, particualrly GPs who may know our patie...Us medics, particualrly GPs who may know our patients for decades, face similar issues at times. It is hard, though, to imagine myself socialising with any of my patients in the same way that would be natural with many of the clergy I have known. But I could certainly see some of my patients as peripheral friends, and some have been both inciteful and supportive when I have needed it - which is nice.<br />I certainly recognise the "wanting authority/ wanting influence" situation. I am known by a shortened version of my Christian name, and it makes me chuckle a little when a few try to be matey but get it wrong by using my full Christian name (which, from my family, would mean that I was in big trouble!)<br /><br />Oh, nice, one of the words in the captcha is "Scripture".DrJnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366621735995057721.post-64241304248008015142013-06-11T19:58:59.421+01:002013-06-11T19:58:59.421+01:00Vic the Vicar!: Clergy - Having favourites
I know...Vic the Vicar!: Clergy - Having favourites<br /><br />I know that my previous Vicar was a friend, whether he could be regarded as close, is hard to fathom. But, despite our friendship, he was able (and did) to take me to task when he believed that I'd overstepped the mark in something I said or did. And, I accepted that this was one of the prices of the relationship that we enjoyed, because for both of us the relationship was dynamic. Colleagues at work in the TA, Parish Priest, Chaplain and later mentor while I was in the discernment process, but totally supportive toward the whole vocation journey.<br /><br />He's now moved on and I miss him, but not enough to move to his new parish!! There are other friends that I've made in my parish, that is home and where I worship and belong. I knew from the outset that one day we'd be separated in the nature of his Priestly role and was fortunate to have nearly 4 years of his friendship and ministry.<br /><br />And, of course, now that he is no longer my Vicar, that relationship can develop naturally without the artificial constraints imposed by that role. God works in funny ways. In this case, he seemed to choose the friendship for us, by accident, but within his plans. Now it moves to another level as things develop in the future.UKViewerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18114944341930758335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366621735995057721.post-39842505184269864862013-06-11T16:22:37.013+01:002013-06-11T16:22:37.013+01:00If you feel your vicar has favourites, ask yoursel...If you feel your vicar has favourites, ask yourself when was the last time you tried to spend time with him/her socially, outside of church events, without wanting something from him/her, but just for the pleasure of his/her company? Might be an eye-opener :)Soup Dnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366621735995057721.post-80438658462434605742013-06-11T11:17:30.779+01:002013-06-11T11:17:30.779+01:00Indeed! Those who will complain at 'favourites...Indeed! Those who will complain at 'favourites' when the door is open to all and access is not restricted who are really complaining that they aren't in what they perceive as a position of power and influence - there's no commitment to the clergy person as friends or even co-workers, just a desire to be 'in the know'.<br /><br />The problem with this is that they can colour the way we (clergy) respond after dealings with them and their ambitions.<br /><br />That said, the door is always open and I'm willing to make time (which is odd because some who have taken most complain that time was never there for them I fear)<br /><br />Hey Ho - thanks for comment.Vic Van Den Berghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581156515370131898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5366621735995057721.post-2408445785495849032013-06-11T11:00:46.347+01:002013-06-11T11:00:46.347+01:00A challenging piece as my experience is that many ...A challenging piece as my experience is that many of those who want to be friends with the Rector do so because it confers something upon them. They want to be in a position of implicit authority rather than in a place of dependable trust.<br /><br />Made me challenge my own attitudes and open door-open heart attitude I would like to think I have.<br /><br />ThanksAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com